I stood in the corner quietly fuming.  After working a ten hour flight, and not really eating, as crew meals are never vegan, and rarely vegetarian, I was tired and grumpy.  The littlest situations would upset me, and when I was reprimanded by the customs agent for not waiting in the correct line, that was enough for me to want cry.  It was a small incident, inconsequential, but I was bothered.  I was met in my corner by a colleague, who, as he walked up, Thai passport in hand, placed the Declaration Form between the pages.  He looked at me, not knowing that I was anything but happy, and said that if he was traveling on his own time to the United States, he would have been asked so many questions.  He said that he was so lucky to have a visa.  He said that he was so thankful for this job.  He said that he was so grateful to be cabin crew.

Cabin Crew

In that moment, I knew that I had just been reprimanded a second time.  I was there, picking fights, and pouting over customs, frustrated about waiting in line, and there are some people- many people that don’t even have the option to wait in this line.  People that don’t even have the hope that they could ever be doing what I do.  As an American, the world is SO accessible to me.  I have so many opportunities! I have always had so many opportunities.  I forget that my reality is not the reality for most.

Oslo City Norway

I just got back from Oslo two days ago.  I’m going again next week.  This is my reality.  

There was a moment, while on one of my many adventures years ago,  that I had wished, and dreamed of being International Cabin Crew.  I had watched the Lufthansa cabin attendants as they walked through the Frankfurt airport, wondering what it was like to be them, and wanting to be walking through an airport like they were.  I thought that was an experience that I would never have the opportunity to live.  And then I did.  It’s what I am doing now.

Norwegian Long Haul MCO

Norwegian 787

And sadly, I haven’t been very excited.  There has been a cost to this opportunity, costs that I have allowed to overshadow the beauty of this new adventure, which in turn robs me of the moment.  There are many ways to look at situations.  With every opportunity in life, there is always something that will be lost, but if loss is what is constantly focused on, loss is what will always be had.  

Today is a day to refocus.  It’s the day to say that the world is full of possibilities, and the place that I am in is EXACTLY where I am meant to be now.  Tomorrow is tomorrow, with it’s own worries and concerns.

But today, I am here.  I am alive.  I am ready.

I have been GIFTED this opportunity, and I will take it on with a smile.

Kara Mulder Flight Attendant Life

It’s a wonderful opportunity at that…(my first time in Oslo City).


  • Anonymous

    You are absolutely beautiful, and I loved reading this article! I’m sure the experiences you get to have are a combination of fun, crazy, and “out there” when it comes to some of the people you deal with on your flights! I’m glad that you have made it into wonderful story-material to share with others! 🙂 After many years in the boring 8-5pm office setting where I knew my personality never belonged, I have hung it up, and am contemplating training as a Flight Attendant or working aboard a cruise ship. Change is awesome!!! I’m glad that you’re “living” the amazing life!! Keep up the great attitude of “living in the moment” and not allow the negative to creep in. Life is short. Keep sharing your beautiful stories and photos! What a journey! 🙂

    June 24th, 2014 1:20
    • Kara

      This comment was the first thing that I read when I woke up this morning…what a wonderful way to start my morning. For you, whoever you are, to take the time just to say what you did means so much to me, encourages me to continue, and makes me know that even in my stumblings, I have found a place. I am so happy to hear about your new adventures, and the change your life is taking. Hope that you learn, risk, follow your heart, and be you! Best- Kara

      June 24th, 2014 11:11
  • Leslie

    Awesome post once again. Love Jackie’s fitness article. You’re awesome Kara. Happy 4th of July early. God Bless America. 🙂

    June 24th, 2014 18:28
  • Tim

    Wow! Just when I think how can her story get better than that you come out with a new rabbit in your writers hat! You inspire and encourage me to look at life better and become a better person. PLZ: Keep writing, the world needs it.

    June 26th, 2014 13:12

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